Friday, October 30, 2015

Ocean City, Maryland 2015

Family Vacation 2015

Another summer, another annual family vacation with a twist.  For nine years we have always stayed with family, either sharing a condo with others or whole house, this year we broke off finally and booked our own house.  This year I didn't have to worry about others disciplining my kids, my kids getting upset and stepping on toes.  Roam kids roam! We stayed in the same community we usually stay in, but just the four of us together, planning our days.

Chevy lent us an amazing 2015 Tahoe (have I mentioned how much I LOVE the Tahoe lately?). This truck is incredible and makes road trips a breeze with room, features and the kids are happy too! Love the ease of captain seats to also reach the usable third row. This is number one on our list for our next family vehicle.  Weeks worth of luggage, bikes, and bags  fit with plenty of extra room and my family of four (we could have brought the dogs).

Our rental was beautiful and roomy- a three floor, four bedroom, family retreat.  We had breakfast outdoors in the morning, evenings sat out listening to the frogs in the ponds around the community.  Daily bike rides to the pool, around the block, or to Starbucks.  The kids did great and loved the freedom, bike paths and fun.  Can you believe though in the week we stayed there we never went to the beach/ocean?

The kids loved the pools, we visited Assateague Island one day and did swim in the bay there while searching for horses.  Amusement park visits meant riding the rollercoasters over and over. Mini-golf, go-karts and playing games on the boardwalk. Having exclusive family time was wonderful, much needed without daily responsibilities at home.

Next year we are looking into similar places, having the freedom of choices, possibilities are endless.

Thursday, October 29, 2015

Why I had surgery.

Last Thursday I am had surgery, it started as a gall bladder issue back in the beginning of August. Once finding out I needed surgery to remove it in September, I decided to also have my tubes removed after discussing lots with Tim and myself. Also thinking it through, I have two incredibly beautiful kids, I have "the dream" boy-girl duo, I have two in full time school now.  We have time to travel, things are easy, and life is good. I love my family as is.

Traveling Trio in September while in PA
My decision to have my tubes removed at 30 ended up being an easy one. Back in February at my annual exam, I had discussed with my doctor that at 35 if I hadn't had the urge or another kid by then I would choose to have my tubes removed then.  I figured at 35, the kids would be 10 and 9, I wasn't going to start over then.  On top of the doubt of starting over, I worried about the health of another baby, deformities and health issues.  I had easy recoveries from both c-sections, but the stress of their births and after dealing with immediate doctors, specialists and surgeons, I have feelings of loss and anxiety.

Jack, my first
Starting over for me is not appealing, for the past two summers vacation has been throwing clothes in a suitcase or book bag and going. No bottles, diapers, sleep routines and accessories. After Jack was born with his hand deformity, needed extra tests done on his kidneys and hearing immediately.  Then, we met with specialists within the first 24 hours. A lot to handle as first time parents.

Jack meeting Char, dukes up!
Charlotte was a routine cesarean, everything was picked out and set.  The day after she was born a hurricane hit and outside the hospital shut down, we were find indoors thankfully.  She was born on a Friday, we went home Tuesday and on Wednesday she started vomiting every 3rd bottle up, even drinking less she was taking in while in nursery.  Friday we took her back to hospital and she was readmitted for another 4 days. She has kidney infection, urinary tract infection and renal reflux (urine was pushing back into kidney) and she was just 7 days old.  To have a baby with a third medical/health/issue, I cannot deal with it emotionally or mentally anymore.  My feeling of loss is just have a baby to bring home without anything to deal with immediately.

I feel starting over would also stop Jack and Charlotte from doing things they are currently into and want to continue.  How can I have a baby out at games, running all over in the car, we would have to slow down for sure.  Also the bond Jack and Charlotte have now, is incredible. They are each others best friends, worst enemies and protectors all in one.  Although they mention babies, its a novelty not life, with one 5 years younger, I would feel they need a sibling to have the connection the first two have. Then I would be up to FOUR. NOPE!   With two, I can handle alone, with two we just go, with two they share a room.

My family is officially complete. My Jack and my Charlotte. The loves of my life.

Saturday, October 24, 2015

New School, New Routine, It's October

It has been a breath of fresh air this year for the kids and I.  Jack started Kindergarten at a new school, Charlotte followed him there, a month in and all reports are how great the kids are doing.  Hallelujah! Jack is riding a bus and loving it, while Char and I have our routine of morning Starbucks together before I drop her off at school.  This year though same school, they are in separate buildings giving them individuality, and identity.  They will not be in the same building together until Jack's in second grade and Charlotte starts first.

I have been home, working on rebuilding my case load for work as my kids transitioned from summer to fall they left me. I am enjoying being home and slowly working on room by room to clean out and organize.  Also working on Apple Moms and growing with the help of the Apple Mom team.  I have plans and dreams and making my goals come true. Although all the extra time I thought I would have with both in school and no work, is still not here.  There really is never enough time in a day.

Another change, the kids are home all week long, no more sleep outs.  This has helped with routine and behavior for both kids, Tim also started vacation time this month giving him more time at home with us as a family and hands on.  He went to school with Jack during fire safety week, and stopped in Charlotte's classroom too.  I am one of the Class Moms for Jack's class. Its all very excited for us this year, sense of normalcy.  After the end of the year and summer we had, coming together as a unit of four was exactly what was needed.